I gotta say, as a former player, I feel the same as you guys. Idk why, but your sentiment over one bad call surprises me when I know it shouldn't.
I once had a pick-6 that was negated on an interference call. The following play, the offense tried to run the exact same play. I picked it off again. Negated by penalty again. On the third try, I missed everything. I missed the route, the ball, the tackle, everything. My sentiment has always been; I didn't make the play when it mattered. My family and friends though, still like to bring up the bad calls.